Conversation Agent - Valeria Maltoni - How do You Become an A-Player?

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@Gianandrea - it looks like many felt the same way you did on measurement. We've become so obsessed with it, that we often lose sight of the part that can draw in the results.

@Hayli - yes, in the same way as we enjoy when someone communicates with us personally, so does everyone else.

@Bruce - I hope Sarah is reading this comment. You rock for writing it :)

@Steve - it sounds more and more like there is a backlash on the numbers without context or value, doesn't it? Focus is key. My friend Peter would talk about the convergence of intention and intent. There is so much more to be gained by being genuine and available to connections.

Valeria - I think the point you make at the end of "stop measuring everything" is SO important. As soon as the "score" is visible, everybody starts playing the game. Quite often, the score measures things that ultimately aren't very important.

A great example of this is Twitter, where almost everybody focuses on the # of followers they have when a better measure might be the # of deep connections they make with people.

The difference between the A's and the B's? B players spend their lives trying to win at the wrong game.

My wife Sarah is an A-player.
After raising 5 kids and a brilliant career in Recreation, she is going back to college to get her degree. (She will be gone from her home for 7-weeks to get this done)

She left college to marry and have children, but she always wanted to completed college someday.

She has been an A-player for our family and her co-workers and is now a retired empty-nester.

She didn't need a huge social network to be on the A-team in my book.

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