Why waste a message with such a question? Doubt is a missed opportunity. You end up creating the reality you seek.
Connection is a choice you make every moment. Better stay home in that case.
You can tell when people who are not interested in initiating something significant.
They usually hide behind excuses. Or ask pointed questions instead of looking to develop a relationship. Prove yourself, they say.
Why should you? Why should anyone need to take note? People do or not do.
This got me thinking about all the time wasters, the fillers, the half hearted promises -- "if I had known", "wish we could do", "how great [insert item] would be", and so on. Ideas don't happen while waiting for better ones -- you do them, you start, get on your way, begin, and adjust as you go.
Not all activities are created equal.
So here's some advice if you care to influence what happens vs. what people may or may not say in reaction to a provocation. Start thinking and seeing things from the point of view of the person/people you want to reach.
What does their world look like? How do they operate? How do they think? What situations do they need to feel welcome and want to connect?
It applies to communities as it applies to cities and even nations. The Web creates lots and lots of choices for people to tell better stories about themselves and hide behind what is convenient.
This is not a test.