How I do the Connecting Thing

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Jay Baer let the cat out of the bag, so I might as well confess - I am a connector, and a life time one, too. Someone said on Twitter today that she wished people understood that the loudest ones are not necessarily those who are making stuff happen (I'm paraphrasing here). Many collect people, I learn about them - what they're looking for, what they're passionate about.

From strangers to friends on trains (part of being Italian and trains never arriving on time), to discovering amazing talent among people in a room crowded with voices intent on networking. I don't have a very sophisticated method, I'm afraid. No big spreadsheets or ultra-tech tools, although the human brain is probably the most sophisticated of all systems.

I just choose to observe, find out, and remember. Because I know a time will come when I'll be able to connect a dear friend with a resource, a business with a partner, an acquaintance with a job opportunity.

What do I get out of it? Why do we need to get something beyond the being helpful part out of it?

Connections is one of the topics here at Conversation Agent. I met Jason Falls when he noticed my first post on connection Katas. I still remember his comment about it.

Being that we're enamored with data, I can tell you that quantity and quality of connections both matter. There is a tipping point when you begin to know fairly well a good number of people and you can help exponentially.

I started making introductions to people early in life and my network has grown organically as a result - on two sides of the pond. Community can also form from the connections made between smaller networks.

During the years when I was facilitating online conversations at Fast Company and organizing live events - yes, 98 free live events, way too many to compete with anyone doing them today - content was the determining factor for inviting the right people to the conversation. Like any good Italian meal is an excuse to be social, right?

You want to have a mix of professionals in organizations, consultants, and service providers/agencies at events. And you don't want especially to be preaching to the choir. There needs to be a nice mix to make things interesting for everyone.

One of the weaknesses of professional associations is that often there are many more providers  than buyers at events, for example. Our community/network cut across professions, industries, and organization type. And it grew organically over time.

You can turn the dial with content and change results.

The other great thing is that because we had series of events, we had a great deal of diversity among attendees within the same community. We played with Legos, worked on the digital strategy for a museum and tested restaurant technology, we brainstormed with CEOs, and went shopping for the right internal communications strategies.

I summarized some of it here, the rest is what you learn with me in posts and through the connections we make now. It was never about me, it still isn't. It's about exchanging ideas and meeting people. In some cases, it's about giving the stage to anyone who decides they want to connect.

Give it time. It may not work today, but I will remember tomorrow, and the day after. I don't believe we lost the ability to pay attention to what's important - and you are important.To make the right connection, where the is a fit, takes time. But when you do, you fly, you're in "flow".

Yes, I do the welcome bit - an email on your first comment and whenever we have something to say to each other, email is the new offline. I do the the facilitation, answer questions - this post was the result of a question - the connecting - usually most of it behind the scenes - and thank often, in many languages. 

Finally, as I wrote to Jay the other day, I think it ironic that my posts show such a low comment count, because they are shared and discussed in many places - I wish TypePad had thought of innovating in the direction of aggregation vs. its own sign up system.

Steve Rubel says blogging may be dead - not by a long shot. It's "and/and", rarely, "either/or". I'm with the getting to know you movement, and for that you need to actually be impressionable and have enough content to invite discovery - in one place.

As for the impressions I make, I know it takes time to notice someone else. I'm in no hurry. I'm in it for the long haul.

What about you? How do you make real connections?

[image of world's tallest Lego Tower]

The Biggest Opportunity of All

Spread Opportunity for Others The biggest opportunity of all is not your next direct mail. It's not even the campaign you conduct by FedEx and same day follow up call - we see through that already. You won't find it by asking people to give you their email address to get last year's white paper. People have learned to use a disposable email address.

The most you can hope is not that a few people tell you your newsletter is nice - or that they don't unsubscribe but just use the delete key. It's not that they wouldn't want to hurt your feelings. They just don't want to deal with you at all.

The biggest opportunity is not a gimmick to get your message out there to more people who are not interested in buying your services. The biggest opportunity in fact is in listening for and finding those people who want and need your services. Those who are already looking for you.

So many ask me about social media as if it were the answer to all the questions they've been asking about reconnecting with customers and prospective customers. They do not realize that they already have the answers - social media is about social. It may provide you with tools and ways to discover those who are already predisposed.

Too many focus on the tools - give me a blog, fan cast me on Facebook, I'll raise you a Twitter. The latest Web site agency fashion is to stream the Twitter accounts of management on the home page. I'm not gonna go all ROI on you on a Friday, but that doesn't tell me much about me as a client, does it?

Remember it's social. It allows you to more easily join or build a conversation that is about your customers - and not about you. Making it about them means helping them connect with each other. It also means that your product or service makes them look good. That's where the real value is.

And if you're a skeptic, or worse a cynic - well, that means you're missing the biggest opportunity of all.

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Extraordinary Impact

Mediabistro Circus NYC

It comes with emotion and with interaction. There are no two ways about it, especially when our certainties start to vacillate, we go back to meaning as in what resonates with us at an emotional level. We want to rediscover what lights us up and how we can keep others interested in and engaged with us.

It's human to want to rediscover what the new normal is. As far as I can remember, there have been some conversations that had the most extraordinary impact in my life. Mentors and teachers who have given time and advice freely. We connect with others so that we can reconnect with ourselves.

Tell me the truth - is that what you think about when you create marketing opportunities? Do you think about helping others connect with their peers so that they can also reconnect with their selves? It would go a long way in helping people discover if they should be connecting with you.

Let people add context It beats the alternative... we are becoming very astute at avoiding marketing messages. I get a laugh every time I say it, but it's true - we're made of Teflon when it comes to stuff that comes at us.

Yet, we still want help, information, we're open to tips, we look for things that connect with us like hope and love. And we watch what our friends do. We always did, now we have more ways to do so.

This may be a moment when more are shouting. When people, in the enthusiasm and energy of the newness of all this connecting and talking, need to relearn when to keep their mouth shut. Tammy Erickson writes it eloquently at Harvard Business Publishing blog.

Think back at those situations when you know you've said too much. Apply that knowledge and learning to the treatment you reserve for your customers and prospects. What would that look like? What do you pay attention to? What lights you up?

Chances are it's stories that are relevant and touch you personally. "This is me," you think. And you are genuine in that. It takes a great deal of emotional intelligence to develop such a fine ear and eye - for a marketer to be able to know what you're listening for. This is the art part.

There is a science piece, too. It's expressed mostly in having maturity about timing and attention. Measuring your words on the balance sheet of your customers' patience and their needs, which can be all too real today. Fewer resources, more to do. When can you do more with less?

When you:

  • Simplify - don't ask your customers to decipher your acronyms, your jargon, the proprietary term, use economy of words, and use economy in your thinking. Say it better.
  • Make is easier - to deal with you, to contact you however it's more convenient for them. With social media, you may seek to have a presence where you customers are.
  • Get to the point - in marketing speak we call it offer. Make it compelling. And don't ask your customers to jump through hoops - make it real. 

I'm sure you can think of more instances. Customers and communities have changed how you should approach marketing, public relations, and communications. You can and need to build value in this new environment.

On June 2, I will join colleagues from Razorfish, Fanscape, and TheHappyCorpGlobal at Mediabistro Circus to talk about what it means to be in the age of the customers. This is a time not unlike The Renaissance, where marketing needs to reinvent itself. Do we need more art with all that science?

Would it inspire you to be an agent of change in your organization? Would you share some emotionally intelligent signs that you get it?

Join the conversation on June 2 & 3 at Mediabistro Circus for as low as $245 until May 13. Use conference code: MBCSPEAKER for a 15% discount.

From the site:

Mediabistro Circus: Extraordinary Impact explores the convergence of digital and traditional media, why it matters, and how it affects the work you do. It’s two days of inspired programming designed to bring together hundreds of top-level professionals from across the media disciplines.

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Acts of Marketing

SocialWhoIs

Attraction is incremental. It goes hand in hand with attention. And it is acts of marketing that stimulate both. That's because they connect our aspirations with experiences we appreciate and enjoy. What seems like a long time ago, I wrote about the 4 A's of blogging: Attract, Ask, Aspire, Act. I'd like to amend that slightly.

Aspire

Aiming for something greater than self, wanting to make a difference. It is not just younger generations who are looking for meaning. We all are - personal and professional are bleeding into each other as we do so. 

Ask

Asking and interacting are the foundation of being human, not just being in social media. Have you noticed the new splash screens people have on Twitter? It's not just about image, it's about asking explicitly. In a way, Twitter is the new interactive banner ad - with you as the media rich content.

Act

Wherever you turn today, thanks to social media, non marketers are starting to pay attention to marketing. Why? Because all of a sudden, people anywhere in an organization, or anywhere in the world, now can gain traction, a following, and realize a conversion off that.

Attract

Lots  has been written about the law of attraction. Attraction has a tipping point. The more customers like your business, the more attention they will pay it, the more they will tell their friends about it, and so on. Small businesses tend to fare better with this. They stay closer to and more involved in relationships. Attraction is also about attitude.

This could even be the life cycle of a project or execution. A few weeks ago, I noticed that someone who goes by the name directeur was working on a graphic dynamically on FriendFeed. What probably started as aspire, had become ask.

I thought it was a very interesting use of the tool to crowd source a design. Little I knew, a few weeks later, I was invited to a SocialWhoIs room on FriendFeed to find out that now people can create portable profiles for Twitter and FF on SocialWhoIs.

This is the act part. The attract follows it closely. The room already counts 276 members after a few days. To give you some perspective, the PepsiCooler room, started at the end of October, has 357 members. Why the results in a couple of days? Because SocialWhoIs is about you, and not a company.

The site says:

This website is a proof of concept that a better Social Media can exist ; a social media based on interests and "personal relevancy" instead of popularity. And this, really is the next step in social media! 

Now, this is what I call an act of marketing.

What does Conversation Agent do?

Conversation Agent I get asked this question very often these days. Some people think it's a clever name and feel tempted to consider it generic. It's everything but, and you'll see why in a moment.

Others attempt to copy it - you know who you are and my (free) advice to you is to come up with an idea you can claim your own. This has me written all over it (never mind prior use, etc.)

Briefly, I was Made in Italy, grew up in the land of conversation - I've been learning and practicing being it my whole life. Do you think I have a jump start on it?

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Conversation Agent in many ways is conceptually like Intel - it powers things from the inside remaining focused on the outside performance.

In other words, it's my job to understand your business, how you make money, where the challenging points are, and providing a way to power it so that the end user - your customers and prospects - can deal with you on their terms.

Often terminology has a lot to do with it. More often it's the business itself that needs an engine tune up.

Too many are getting stuck with the tools and forget the protagonist, still. Today we often call these tools social media. If you make the appropriate business decisions to align with the marketplace, we can make a case for why you will benefit enormously from investing in an integrated conversations program using the appropriate tools.

Connecting

Social media ends up being a choice because that's where your customers are talking and connecting. You know how it is, we do prefer an unsolicited and candid opinion of a peer. Until such time when we will be comfortable voting for what's best for the customer, even when it's not us, we need to understand that our customers want to make that choice. We can, however, put our best foot forward.

Choosing tools is very much like picking the right networking event. You don't show up to hurl cards at people, you show up to meet, get to know, ask questions, etc. However, you need to want to show up and then be ready to do it to come across as someone one would want to meet.

Conversation into Conversion

Not the other way around. I know what you're thinking. That's all very nice, but we need lots of leads to fill the pipeline. As long as our database is correct, we should center everything on direct response and lots of volume. Yes, that's a real need at the moment. The number one type of solicitation I receive at work is from companies that provide lead generation and lead nurturing services.

We all want real, tangible results - and we want them this quarter. Consider the long term implications of this statement. What was it that Einstein said? You cannot solve a problem using the same thinking that caused it. Or something to that effect. Long, sustained growth is a healthier choice.

Jumping to Conclusions

Approaches with metrics attached to them are welcome. Do measure everything you do. But please refrain from arriving at conclusions prematurely. Are you familiar with syllogism? From Greek, it means inference. In Aristotle's Prior Analytics, he defines syllogism as "a discourse in which, certain things having been supposed, something different from the things supposed results of necessity because these things are so."

It's about deductive reasoning. See how a Liberal Arts degree comes in handy? I wanted to get your attention focused on analytics, because they're your friend.

Just Browsing

Conversation leads to conversion. As readers and browsers online, we have conversations with Web sites. The better the site, the more me-centered - with a robust search engine, one that remembers what I like and proposes new stuff that matters to me (like Amazon) - the better.

The more relevant and valuable the content experience - with a layer of peer-generated or even customizable company-generated tools that will make the job I'm trying to do easier - the higher the conversions.

Conversations are content-driven. You could be talking about the weather and if you're in the agriculture business that is the most interesting thing you could ever share.

Attention and Time

I realize that there is a lot here - your business deserves this much attention and more to help you serve your customers better. Social media is direct response - customers have the opportunity to tell you directly what they want from you. That is if you've been networking properly and you hear them.

Are you willing to deliver on that? You already have a lot of information about customer behavior on your site - you find it through Web analytics.

The thing is you can observe a lot by tracking things, but unless you ask, you can rarely figure it all out on your own. You will find a very good survey example if you follow the link I provided for Intel.

Did your customer leave that page because they found what they wanted, or did they bounce off because they did not find it? Or, your Web site is very sticky - people spend a lot of time on it - yet you cannot tie that to sales or outcomes.

Why? Surveys and feedback can be built into all communications - you start with a baseline, form a business strategy, attach goals to it, execute tactics, measure against your goals, analyze feedback, adjust and repeat. We lost the discipline to follow the process.

Social media has the feedback built into it (no answer is also feedback), but still lacks much of the standardized process you're used to with other channels. That's because it's not a channel.

Customer Conversation

Does social media change things? You bet. People don't need your communication to have a conversation. Now the question is, do you want to participate and contribute? If you do, then we can work on answering why and figuring out the hows and whats.

Conversation Agent is an elegant way of saying (remember, language matters) - I help businesses understand how customers and communities have changed marketing, public relations, and communications, and how to build value in this new environment.

How do I know that?

20 years doing what I do, 10 of which experimenting online, including building communities and speaking the business models and languages of five industries. I've made enough mistakes in enough cultures to have learned a few things.

That means I actually studied and learned about risk management, chemical manufacturing, technology services, consulting, science and health - in addition to understanding how distribution models, regulatory and policy issues influence the process and how operational strategies and marketing partnership work to make a business what it is.

My technology to growth and, in a couple of cases exit strategies, is marketing and communications. The spotlight is on the business and the people who make it work.

Tomorrow we'll talk about the future of the agency.

How do You Know?

[Failure: the Secret to success, 8:19"]

I'd like to try something different today, maybe it's because I've been spending more time on FriendFeed and Twitter. I'd love it if you did most of the talking here - I know we will all get ideas for follow up projects that way.

Many of you reading have been involved with social media at least a little - enough to want to learn more, experiment with your own formats, enjoy the connections. I've done my fair share of interviews on both sides - asking questions, and answering questions, depending on how the conversation started. One of the most frequently asked questions is:

What makes Conversation Agent (or you overall) successful?

For me, it's a combination of things:

  1. Reading and learning by doing constantly, and thinking about what others share
  2. Observing relationships, connections, time, and attention patterns
  3. Listening actively in the comments and conversations wherever they may be, and listening in the measurements (that is feedback, too)
  4. Being willing to go where the conversation is
  5. Collaborating with the community of readers and professionals
  6. Being absolutely in love with everything about thinking together (writing and talking)
  7. Experimenting with new formats often (not always, that would get you dizzy) and failing frequently - the more and faster I fail, the more I learn
  8. Providing a cohesive body of work for those who wish a deeper dive
  9. Working hard on content so that (hopefully) it's helpful to you
  10. Researching but also creating and building context

My question back to you:

How do you know what makes you successful? When was the first time you felt you were onto something? Was there such a time? Are you carving a path for yourself to build on that success?

Hint: the more I get to know you, the more helpful I can be in my content and in helping you make connections.

[bonus link, my interview with the talented Patsi Krakoff, co-founder of The Blog Squad on content marketing insights]

The Art of Receiving

Christmas Angels
"Receiving isn’t easy. If it were, more of us would do it with grace and gratitude. Is there a way to change that? Can we learn to receive so we can be nourished and empowered? These are crucial questions, not just because the holiday season is a time when giving and receiving are part of our daily experience. The ability to receive is, in fact, essential to physical health, psychological ­balance and spiritual engagement." [Ode magazine, The Art of Receiving]

“We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give.” [Winston Churchill]

"At a party given by a billionaire on Shelter Island, Kurt Vonnegut informs his pal, Joseph Heller, that their host, a hedge fund manager, had made more money in a single day than Heller had earned from his wildly popular novel Catch-22 over its whole history. Heller responds, "Yes, but I have something he will never have ... enough." [John Bogle, Enough]

[image of butter angels from FINI window in Modena, Italy]

Trust

Trust

According to the entry on wikipedia, trust is a relationship of reliance.

It does not need to involve belief in the good character, vices, or morals of the other party. And it does not need to include an action that you and the other party are mutually engaged in. In fact, trust is a prediction of reliance on an action, based on what a party knows about the other party.

In sociology (and psychology) the degree to which one party trusts another is a measure of belief in the honesty, benevolence and competence of the other party. Based on the most recent research, a failure in trust may be forgiven more easily if it is interpreted as a failure of competence rather than a lack of benevolence or honesty.

In psychology, trust is integral to the idea of social influence: it is easier to influence or persuade someone who is trusting.

That is if you trust the definition from a wiki.

I can trust you without liking you, I just need to respect you. I have written this before - we buy from brands we do not like, but we need to respect someone to have a relationship with them (if so inclined, look at my presentation on corporate bloggers).

If you cross me, there is no amount of competence you can throw at me. It's very difficult to come back from a falling of trust. Not impossible, as Stephen M.R. Covey (the son) writes, in Speed of Trust, it will take work and commitment.

Mileage may vary from individual to individual. I have written before about social capital and trust. This is a conversation where we are just skimming the surface at the moment. It is worth pondering the consequences of how we're thinking about trust, because it is affecting our reality and our world.

If we have the power to create our own future, what we see as our marketplace and economic environment at the moment is nothing to be proud of. Let's stop making excuses and start behaving our way out of it.

Trust has an enormous impact over the destiny of what is going on with social media and conversations. We need to start paying attention to language and be more aware of the difference between behavior and intention - we tend to judge other people's behavior on the basis of our own intention. They are often apples and oranges.

I don't know about you, but I find it more difficult to become intimate with issues these days. However, I have not lost the ability to become intimate with and interested in people. In fact, if anything, our hunger for intimacy and feeling special has increased exponentially. Could it be because we seek in others what we think we lost in ourselves?

Trust in organizations and entities is at an all time low. With reason. But we do need to have businesses and mechanisms to earn a living. What do you propose in their stead? Are you building a business that we can believe in? Lead us.

It's a two-way street - you cannot have your cake and eat it, too. Are your expectations unrealistic? Clarifying expectations is your first responsibility - to yourself and to others, in business and in life. This is all connected, yes, we have succeeded in bringing down the wall, now it's up to us to make it work, to bridge onto what's next.

Forrester says: people don't trust companies

Rich Becker puts it so well himself that I can hardly add to it. Why do we rely on an analyst to tell us what we already know? Do you trust your own company? Chances are you trust the people you work with. Think long and hard at this one. You don't have to tell me, just make sure you know yourself, deep down. It's a private conversation - yes, there is value in holding some things to yourself.

We contribute to companies - we vote both by joining as employees in opportunistic moves and by buying those products in consumerist moves.

If you read fiction, James Webb has written a great story about trust, compassion and loyalty in The Emperor's General. It will probably give you some food for thought on assigning blame.

We talk code

One of the most difficult jobs inside an organization is that of uncovering and communicating its purpose-idea. That is because most people think "brand" and when that happens, a curtain comes down. Thanks to the proliferation of talk on brands and everyone's exposure to marketing - some call it pounding - everyone thinks they know what it means and what the work entails.

Conversations come down to a matter of opinion.

And while opinions are important, as facts are, truth trumps both. "I don't like it," I hear. "Why don't you like it?" I ask. "I don't know, I just don't like it," is often the answer. It's not a thread or a conversation, and it becomes a distraction - it prevents the uncovering of purpose (truth) and direction.

Worse, I think that promotion and advertising (is there truth in?) have reinforced the dichotomy between personal intention and our judgment of the behavior of others against it. We project our own doubts and insecurities onto the actions of others.

Do you know what you want?

Let's face it, we're all on a quest for new trust mechanisms. Personal experiences have become the new barometer for extrapolating trends. We stopped outsourcing trust to institutions but instead of holding ourselves accountable for our own ethics and behavior, we have shifted that responsibility onto others. Then we cast stones at people we hold up as influentials when we were the ones putting them on the pedestal in the first place.

Chris is a person, in case you forgot, and so are you. He is an interesting person, because he is interested and curious. Start there as you pick apart what he has done with sponsorship. What have you actually done with sponsorship that we could hold as best practice? Let's not talk hypothetically here. Give me an example. Now tell me, will it work again? Is it repeatable? Teach me.

In theory lots of things work, and then they meet the reality, the messy reality of the marketplace - filled with customers. Customers are people, just like you. They can be difficult and downright unreasonable. Today at Fast Company expert blog we discuss what customers want and why marketers need to understand the job to do and not the customer to deliver something we may want to buy.

We and our behavior are made and shaped by the job we are trying to do, and through our interaction with others. Instead of casting stones, we'd do better at casting a pebble in the water. As Mark Earls writes in Herd, choose the pebble wisely, choose how to throw it - but once the stone leaves your hand you have to let it go. Watch its flight, by all means, but then sit back and watch the ripples that it creates roll across the water.

Know what you want, but do not get attached to outcomes. Relinquishing control with dignity is the greatest challenge of the 21st century, wrote Kevin Kelly. That is trust.

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Related posts:

Social Capital and Trust
Thriving on Chaos? Only When You Have Trust
Would you Tell Your Customers (and Employees) How Bad it is?
Privacy: Trading Trust for Cash

[image courtesy of thorinside]

Connections as Emotion

Connections as Emotion Charleston and Geneva may not have too many things in common - or maybe they do. I have never been to either. The world is getting smaller not so much thanks to the technology that allows us to connect more easily with each other, that is a medium. What makes the world smaller as in 'easier to put your arms around' is the humanity that comes through when we do use technology to connect.

I met Claudia on Twitter, the modern-day matching site for like-minded people. She surprised me with a post that has really shifted my thinking on connection - emotion as connection. Take the time to visit with her incredible photography as well. As I'm writing this, Geneva is enjoying its night time, and I am enjoying the serene landscape of this Swiss beauty. I have some photographs taken by my mother in the same or similar angles.

Cheryl Smithem of Charleston, SC has been linking a lot lately and I have taken some time to read her thinking on branding and social media. What I like most about her blog so far is the image of her laughing on what looks like a beach and how she describes herself - connection maven.

I have not met these ladies but through their writing and images - yet, the contacts have given me already a lot more than your causal conversation. That is because of their content. What if connections were emotion? Would that explain why we are so keen on making all those connections - on social networks, on Twitter, on blogs - for that special feeling of being seen and heard and part of things? You count... your vote (of confidence, of interest, of trust, of love) counts.

Next week we will talk about content marketing.

[image courtesy of my mother]

Connecting the Dots and a Heartfelt Thank you

Back in September, I asked several professionals I respect and read regularly if they'd be willing to write guest posts at Conversation Agent. What resulted was the most amazing collections of ideas and voices I could have dreamed of. In presenting the guest post series, I promised I would show you how those ideas and people were connected with me and with each other.

Geoff Livingston When Things go Wrong by Geoff Livingston opened the series with an important statement -  Crisis demands superior, thoughtful communications. Though we love to talk social media, in a crisis these principles hold true regardless of medium. Because great communications involve people, one to one, one to many, but always factual with a commitment to resolving problems or simply acknowledging them in a real and authentic way.

I met Geoff in this space, when he asked me to do an interview with him at The Buzz Bin. He's since been an agent provocateur for me, someone who challenges my assumptions with ideas and stories. He invited me to keynote last year's DMA conference in Washington, DC.  And talking about story, if you're looking for corporate video narrative, Director Tom is your man. He puts more people at ease in front of a camera than anyone else I've met - and he does so with passion.

DirectorTom Life is not perfect and neither is a company. A corporate video story should reflect some of the realities we all face in life. That means leaving behind the “perfect world” and entering the “real world.” Think about it: isn’t a story interesting because of the tension, conflict, or challenge of a situation? An interesting company video story is no different. Tom Clifford, Director Tom, in Will Your Corporate Video Fail? gives us 5 Simple Steps for Success with Stories.

Tom and I met face to face at Blogger Social this past April. While my conversations with Adele started on Twitter, they continued during a dinner and a nice walk in her current hometown of Montreal. When she shared her story, I learned that Adele honed her community building skills in the retail world - that's quite some training! Catch up with her on Twitter. And talking about stories...

Adele McAlear... sometimes the best story is the one we can tell when we put passion into it. Putting Your Passion to Work by Adele McAlear is a true story that teaches us that - it’s easy to use the words open, listening and conversation in digital terms, scrolling through your feedback channels looking for clues and openings to engage with people. But, as you go about your day-to-day business, traveling from one place to another, do you really take time to be open to the people around you, to allow for the possibility of great moments? A conversation holds the potential to change lives.

Meeting people on Twitter and talking to each other's avatars may be fun. What's more interesting is when those connections bridge over to collaborations off line. Michael and I met at a Social Media Club event organized by the fantastic Annie Heckenberger a couple of months ago. Michael is a writer who got his start in radio, perhaps that is why he's got such an easy way on Twitter. Here's what he's thinking about micro impressions.

Michael Leis What is the truth? Asks Michael Leis in The Truth is 140 Characters - There are a lot of people out there writing about the strategy and tactics of companies entering social media as difficult because they feel as though companies need to be “authentic,” “real,” or “transparent.” This is a great idea, and I hope it comes true. But it is dangerous to trust or expect.

Michael and I will be part of a workshop on social media for the Philadelphia Chapter of the Direct Marketing Association in November. Then there are those encounters you make off line, which bridge back online. I met Dion at a MIMA event in Minneapolis last March. During a conversation over dinner, I suggested that his stories, good sense of humor, and presentation would be a welcome addition to the blogosphere. He decided to take me up on it and joined.

Dion hughes What happens to brands that are participating in social media? It's time to give more serious thought to brands as members of society, says Dion Hughes in Is Your Brand the Life of the Party? - recognize that going with the flow doesn’t mean accepting lower-quality, off-the-cuff solutions. The most winning presence in the marketplace today is surprising, true, witty, human AND perfectly present.

You may recall that Dion also put together a proposed panel for SxSW on Brand Manners. The northern regions are filled with social media treasures. Both Karen and Tony who I present next ail from Toronto. I met Karen when she linked to one of my posts. I have enjoyed so much her writing and thinking around brand narrative and storytelling, that I asked her to share it here.

Karen Hegmann Brand Stories Define Us, writes Karen Hegmann - In a sense, we are the story of the brands we use. A brand is a reflection of how we want to be perceived by the world. It sums up our hopes and expectations as to how we want to interact with the world. Just as interactive media is able to engage us through its ability to provide ongoing narrative, so too can a good story make us feel as if we’re willing participants during each stage of a brand’s lifecycle.

Branding is also a topic favored by Tony who I met when he was guest posting at ProBlogger. During one of our conversations, Tony asked me to contribute to The Blog Herald, where I posted on branding and marketing for more than one year. I am curious as to how he manages to keep up with technology news and social media-related conversations, given his chosen profession.

Tony Hung What's Twitter's Role in Brand Management? Tony Hung tells us - At the end of the day, every conversation about your name, service, products, or brand, should be treated as an opportunity to engage people -- in real time -- with their experiences, and no matter how good it is, try and make it better, in the way that the ideal brand experience ought to be. Using Twitter this way is not for the lazy, uninterested, or the disempowered. It necessitates a melding of great customer service and the knowledge of what the brand is, how it ought to be, and the integrity to realize that there are always going to be shortcomings.

Kat and I met in intra-blogs conversations. Her style is similar to mine, although I tend to make things more complicated, I think. By now you can probably tell that there is definitely a thread on storytelling and brands here.

Livebard In the language of programmers, story is the compiler code, writes Kat French in Story, Social Media and the Intersection between Experience and Meaning - Social media is where we share our stories online.  The need to share stories is universal.  It’s not limited to big organizations and brands, and it’s not limited to individuals, either.   In a very real sense, the last few decades’ onslaught of traditional marketing and advertising have created a false veneer over reality and authentic experience.  Deep down, a sort of angry dissonance hums that nothing is true and nothing is trustworthy because of this veneer.

The conversation would have not been complete without challenging the premise itself that we are having one. Connie is a fresh voice in that department and she has quickly risen to show me how every dot connects in social media. She participates in one of the country's most active Social Media Clubs in Austin.

Connie-reece-150The authentic experience comes from being present as a contributor to the conversation. Are You Conversationally Tone-Deaf? Asks Connie Reece - some people are naturally gifted at conversation; others gradually acquire the skills that allow them to engage in enjoyable and effective back-and-forth exchanges; while others seem genetically incapable of picking up verbal or written cues that keep the conversation flowing.

Those of you who've read my rants on the agency's role, will appreciate that I needed to invite someone who could speak from a place of authority - he's doing it and gets it. Jason got interested in connecting with me when reading my very first post on how I see connections through the metaphor of Karate.

JasonfallsWhere do agencies fit in the conversation? What Does the Future of Social Media and the Agency Hold? For Jason Falls - social media will be revealed as a communications mechanism. Thus, communications professionals will claim responsibility for it. Agencies will begin to own more and more responsibility for those communications because the good ones will see it as a way to survive in a world where traditional media, and thus traditional advertising and public relations, aren’t reliable places to hang your hat. Customer service will migrate its way to the forefront of social media strategies and become the primary focus of these efforts.

It got more personal with Christine. She was my PR agency account manager - a good listener, an excellent practitioner, someone you could truly trust to represent you, and I don't say those things lightly. She got more involved in social media after listening to my stories. Today, she authors a blog, Propelling Brands, with her husband Adam. Catch her also on Twitter. Christine has become a colleague on the corporate side. There was no better person that she to tell us the viewpoint on PR and conversation from the agency seat.

Christine Needles Some on the agency side will need to become more comfortable with direct participation. Christine Needles says "You Know, I Just Work for the Agency..." and Other Forms of PR Self-Doubt -How often are PR people encouraged to have their own opinion? We are counselors, skilled at developing messages and talking points our clients will deliver. Can we have our own opinions? Do clients want their agency PR team out talking about them? Does this create a new liability concern for agency management? Do bloggers want to hear from PR people (outside of the many conversations about our own industry)? Of course, there are many very talented PR pros out there who are ahead of the curve.

There are those rare moments of Zen, when you discover a voice that really hits your sweet spot and comes so close to home. Gianluca did both for me. After reading his blog for a couple of years and discovering he lives and works (in corporate Italia) in the neighborhood back in Italy, we met face to face last month. If you ever learn Italian, his blog on marketing is a must read. A must is also customer conversation.

Gianluca Diegoli So why wouldn't you want to Show Customer Reviews on Your Site? Gianluca Diegoli - we either truly believe that our customers are so stupid as to decide to make a purchase just after reading only what we write on our site and accepting it without seeking other opinions, in which case we are the ones to be deceived - because in reality they will look for “independent” opinions elsewhere, poor us, or we ourselves don’t believe what we write.

Becky is the champion on customer service. Her blog, Customers Rock! is a source of good tips and interesting stories. Becky is frequently invited to speak about customer service and I hope that one day, we might share the floor in the same conference.

Becky Carroll The invisible is very important when it's customer service, writes Becky Carroll - The best place to begin this journey past the invisible is with customer conversation. Listen to what your customers are saying to you and to each other. Start to interact with them in the places where they are already congregating (online and offline). If you aren’t sure of something, ask! Customers are usually very interested in working with a company that is interested in them.

Here's another lady, a fellow communicators, who I hope to meet in person in the not too distant future. Lauren has a remarkable point of view and a personality to match it. When we talk about content online, she has what it takes to give advice.

Lauren Vargas Stop Lazy Content Creation, Go Old School with George Orwell, says Lauren Vargas - As social media becomes more mainstream, so does the content.It is increasingly difficult to be heard in the noise. How do you stand out? Go beyond lazy content. Choose your words wisely. Ask yourself: What am I trying to say? What words will express it? What image or idiom will make it clearer? Is this image fresh enough to have an effect? Could I put it more shortly? Have I said anything that is avoidably ugly?

What seems like million years ago, Chris was writing a blog called More Minimal, where I stumbled upon several posts that peaked my interest. He's a veteran of the online space - he published Paperfrog in the early days. He is now a full-fledged editor of a portfolio of green publications and knows a thing or two about sustainability.

Chris_aug08_250px Even with the right content strategy, It Ain't Easy Being a Green Marketer, states Chris Baskind - Green marketing is more than pretty rain forest images and simplistic claims. Do your homework. Make very specific and verifiable claims. If there is reputable green certification in your field, get with the program. Engage in the green conversation. Be in it for the long haul.

Stephen and I share many interests - one of which is the painter Caravaggio, my absolute favorite. What I love most about Caravaggio paintings is the point of view as expressed in the eyes of one of the characters (usually) on canvas. Stephen has point of view in spades at Note to CMO. His posts cut through a situation to show us lessons learned. His guest post drives it home, or should I say flies...?

Stephen DennyAnd to show that there is a Difference Between What Hip Looks Like and What Hip Is in brands, Stephen Denny illustrates with a situation from daily life - a walk through Baltimore-Washington International Airport TSA security line at the ungodly hour of 5:30AM with his son. Understanding the "why" is more important than parroting the "what," and this point is usually the one most often missed by marketers looking to capture what others before them have discovered.

I met Paul in Minneapolis also and later learned he's originally from Colorado, a state gifted with many breath-taking destinations. How can we look at things differently? Can we challenge what (used to) work?

Paul Isakson In the end, What's Old is New Again, and Again, and Again... says Paul Isakson - it's time to stop approaching everything exactly as we have because that's what we know and are comfortable with. I think it's time we took a hard look at the way our marketing departments and agencies are structured and what skill sets we've been recruiting for and consider new ways to work based on the way people are communicating and discovering information. I think it's time we stop interrupting people's lives with annoying messages and start helping them make their lives just a little bit better and a little bit easier.

A heartfelt thank you to you, dear readers, for welcoming my friends to the conversation and to you, dear friends, for writing such insightful material.

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