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Have you ever noticed how patient an audience is with a speaker but how impatient it becomes at question time.

My experience is audiences are incredibly impatient with questions - what anticipation fuels this impatience ?

But to your question - Einstein wrote a lovely Book called "The world as I see It (published in 1935) In it he gives an insight which is worthy of reflection in the context of your post:

"I gang my own gait and have never belonged to my country, my home, my family, or even my immediate family, with my whole life; in the face of all these ties I have never lost an obstinate sense of detachment, of the need for solitude...One is sharply conscious, yet without regret, of the the possibility of mutual understanding and sympathy with one's fellow creatures. Such a person no doubt loses something in the way of geniality and lightheartedness; on the other hand, he is largely independent of the opinions, habits and judgments of his fellows and avoids the temptation to take his stand on such insecure foundations."

I wonder if accessibility is a function of commerce which has a tendency to compromise a deeper faculty of humanity. The loss of time being the least of your worries if you are too accessible.

In the search for something truly "new" Einstein philosophy of logging is worth logging out to think about.

Co-incidentally, relativity is also fundamental to this question. Your speed is relative to the speed of everything that is going on around you. Too fast or too slow (of mind and/or movement etc)and the spot that marks your position amongst all the elements of the "moment of truth" will be empty.

Too fast and you've left the spot; too slow and you're alone with your thoughts.

Curiously, the older I get the more I observe that too slow is seldom the problem. Rather, and it comes back to patience, I sense I am too impatient to wait.

So many more observations - The internet is such a poor place for a conversation about such matters.

@Ann - there is a time for every purpose, too. That is why being part of the conversation is so important. You do not know when people will be available to engage - and it has to be on their own terms. Thank you for making the time.

@Anita - I blogged about some research to that effect a couple of days ago I actually write better when I write faster. Speed does not dilute focus. There is plenty of research (I used to work with child brain neurological development) that proves that speed in reading, for example, actually increases comprehension. It's doing multiple things at the same time that dilutes focus. My eye-opener in Poscente's book is that we get impatient when there is no anticipation. How excited are you to go grocery shopping? Now think about standing in line (even online) to get tickets for a concert you've really been wanting to see.

@Matt - I do not see it as a contrarian stance at all. I see it as complementary. To me even spiritual alignment is about choices. I'm intrigued by your assertion that sublimation is not about discipline. Why would we call those who have achieved it disciples?

@Amrita - that is the same objection that Poscente addresses in the book. Speed is not the same as multitasking. Nor it is equivalent to busy body. It's about eliminating or reducing the functions that do not add value to accelerate those that do. Think about it, how many times you can't get to the juicy part of a project because you have to take care of admin stuff or are answering emails as they come in? The other point he makes is that we are the same people on two ends - customers and providers. If we expect 24/7 service, are we willing to provide it in turn? There are ways to do that and stay anchored on values. Trade offs are part of life. And about other countries, I was made in Italy. Just because it is notorious that things are slower over there, it does not mean that people are happy about it. In some cases, they are not. In many others, they've learned to live with it.

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