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The better question, Valeria, is if we're conversing in the first place.

When you write something and 3, 5, 10, 500 people read it, you might as well be confessing your sins on public radio because anyone who is everyone in the community responds.

Words and languages change, but music transcends all. When you consider a deaf person can hear music through its vibrations, is anything impossible? I say no. Life is beautiful.

I understand you. Keep doing what you do.

Maybe that's why I was so bruised for a while? :-)

(Ah, Nina Simone. I saw her in London, she was fantastic and I didn't need to smoke anything illegal to get high. The kids [sic... I was but a kid, myself!] in front of me smoked enough to get everyone high...)

"Negotiation of meaning"? I once sat through an hour meeting with an idiot who parsed language fine enough that he would have been better using a sifter. (And I was the unfortunate twit who got to write it all up, afterwards.) There's a line that is often crossed - what we mean, especially when we use colloquialisms, isn't what is heard (or read). All too often people (aka "bloggers") say they will be "honest" and "forthright", and they are anything but (I think you've made that point a few times). Whenever I read someone saying they will be "honest", I cringe - and, if I'm interested enough - I'll start to parse their words. I'll read between them, and see if there is any meaning, any "there", there. All too often, there isn't, because they want everyone to perceive them as somehow "wonderful", "erudite" or something. It's the one thing that will forever stand in the way of corporate honesty. That, and the threat of consumer or shareholder lawsuits if they're *too* honest.

After McCain's parsing of, and the right-wing (but not conservative) acceptance of that contortion, of the meaning of "fundamental", your point is especially relevant. (I can't help but think that Berlusconi and Brown (not to mention Chavez and Kirchner) are in need of some help with this topic, also!)

Personally, I find it's easier to not care what others think of me. Which is something a corporation, or a politician, can't do. Neither can a consultant, for that matter. Does that make the entire debate moot, before it gets interesting? I hope not.

Carolyn Ann

I don't know ( to your final question)

Though, I see conversation more of a children's party game than a contact sport. You remember pass the parcel. You unwrap meaning as the conversation goes on and on and on. And at the end (supposing there is one), whether it's within minutes or years, there is the prize - but it's not agreement.

I am also fond of the expression "don't get me right" - To my mind, agreement is often the greatest misunderstanding.

Very cool indeed.

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