"Almost everybody has Their Thing for which they have high resolution appreciation. The problem is when we want and expect everyone in our domain to have the same exact Thing."
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This was a thoughtful comment Kathy Sierra contributed to a conversation about technology at 37Signals. Follow the link on her name, and you will find the whole thread.
In light of our need to connect with others to get things done and to pay off our social desire to belong and form community, this short quote leads to a significant insight. When we look to solve problems, when we undertake challenges, it is the thing itself we should focus on.
How we go about solving it expresses our unique ability to create. The result of our training, skills, talent, and experience. This is what sets us apart for everyone else already. We misunderstand the aspiration to make something -- including a dent in the universe -- with wanting to be heard.
The outcome of this tension is a disconnect.
High resolution appreciation is energized by individual point of view, even as it is influenced by group acceptance and behavior.
Connection emerges from the ability to know: "I am experiencing this..."
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